I'm going to start this post off by saying that it's a really good thing I don't blog every single time I have something on my mind to blog about...or I'd never get anything else done, and if anyone actually reads these posts, they'd get pretty tired of my babble - if they're not already.
With that said, here's what's on my mind today...it's about relationship and God's design. So, God created Adam and then realized he needed a companion (and, I think that He knew he kinda messed up and needed to make a better model, lol). So with Adam and Eve came the first human relationship, of many relationships. God created us in His image...but going back to a post from a long time ago, what the bible actually says in Genesis 1:26 is "And God said, Let us make man in our image." "Us" in this text is the trinity, God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. See, the trinity exists in relationship to each other. I highly recommend reading "The Shack" by William Paul Young for a really awesome look into what this relationship might be like, if we could give them human personas. Anyway, the trinity is and always has been about relationship, and the really cool thing about this relationship is that it's perfect. Each member of the trinity is about loving each other well, and perfectly. Not only do they love each other perfectly, but they love us perfectly, and the love they share and the love they give is to serve as an example of how we human's should love each other. Not only was it God's design for the trinity to be in relationship with each other, and the trinity to be in relationship with us...but it was also His design for us to then go out into the world and be in relationship with each other.
But...we're human and we have lots of human issues, like selfishness, jealousy, anger, possessiveness, fleshly desires...we are not perfect, not by any stretch of the imagination. But God, because He loves us so much, wanted us to understand His design and desire for us so much...that when we totally weren't getting it, He sent His beloved Son to walk the earth, to live among us, as one of us, to SHOW us how do this whole relationship thing. He showed us how to have relationship with Him (refer to the many times in the New Testament that we read about Jesus going to be alone to pray to God, have a relationship with Him) and He showed us how to have relationship with each other. Refer to Matthew 22:36-40 "36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” 37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” This scripture very clearly defines how we are to love God and love each other. It's ALL about relationship.
I don't know about you, but I've had some pretty imperfect relationships with people. I've had struggles in my relationships with my parents, my siblings, my friends, my boyfriends, husband, children - I have more examples of relationships gone bad than I would care to admit. I'm currently struggling in these relationships, all of them really. I'm not sure a single one is good and perfect and the way God intended it to be. I have been hurt, I'm sure I have hurt others. I'm currently in a whole lot of pain from many of these relationships. This pain is frankly worse than any physical pain I've ever experienced, and trust me, I've had quite a bit of physical pain to compare it to. I'm hurting and I'm broken and I'm wrestling with God over what I could have or should have or want to but can't...do to make these relationships good and whole and holy. I can't tell you how much my trust in people has been shattered. About the sadness I feel in my heart and deep in my soul. I'm not trying to be whiny, I'm just admitting how broken I feel and have felt over broken relationships.
It's really easy to blame others for what has gone wrong, it's really easy to blame God too...because why would He bring people into my life only to either take them out physically, emotionally, spiritually...or to have them just be so difficult. It's easy to point the finger away from myself, and really difficult to look in the mirror and see my own faults, my own issues. I can tell you one thing for sure, I've been taking the difficult path lately (mostly because I feel like I've been forced to, but also because I really do want to understand and work through it all) and I've seen a few things that I'm going to share.
First of all, I NEED to have a good, solid relationship with God FIRST, before I can have good, solid relationships with other people. Here's the problem that I have though - I can't really see God physically, I can't really feel God physically, I can't really just go hang out and have a drink with God and have a fun time, an intimate conversation or a spiritual discussion like I can with a person. So this is really difficult to do, have a good solid relationship with God. It's something I've been trying to work on and I think as with any relationship, it's going to take a lot of time, a lot of intentional practices, a lot of effort, a lot of work! Spending time with God is something that doesn't come naturally to me because I live in a human world and for most of my life, I haven't really had or known how to have a relationship with God. I haven't had Jesus. I'm learning, it's hard, but I have to and I want to figure this out...because I know that He is the way, the truth and the life, and I want this truth and life...desperately. I also want this relationship because I want to have good, meaningful relationships with others...and I know that I can't do this well or right unless I'm filled so much with my relationship with Him that it literally spills over to my human relationships.
Second, I need to make sure that God is MY alpha and MY omega. That I do not place people and my relationships with people above God. Honestly, I suck at this! I'm an idol worshipper. I have always put people in the place of God. Not that I think people are God or are above God, but I have made people in my life such a high priority that it's almost like I'm worshipping them or my relationship with them above or instead of God. I've had my priorities way out of order for my whole life and God knows that I'm trying to figure this out. There should be an order...and a wonderful friend/mentor of mine once tried to explain this to me with "rings" or "circles." Basically, the inner circle is God - and He's at the center of everything. The next circle should be my spouse, then children, then extended family, friends, and others. These circles are for me, because I'm married and have children...your circles might look different, but one thing that should always be the same is that innermost circle should be God. When we get our circles out of order, all kinds of problems happen. Trust me when I tell you - I have learned this the hard way. My circles have been so discombobulated that I'm really feeling the consequences and they're not fun. I need to align my circles in the proper order - which is just really not coming easily to me and something I need to and want to work on.
Finally, I need to trust God enough that even when I can't trust others, or trust myself, I know and believe that I can trust Him. When my relationships are falling apart, when I'm hurting because I have put my trust in people and they've let me down, when I feel like I'm so alone and so lonely...when my heart is literally crushed in anguish, remorse, dread, sadness...I need to have complete faith in the only One that I know will never leave me or foresake me. The One who came to bind up the brokenhearted. I need to believe God and trust that He will get me through, and teach me something in the process and that I will grow into the person that He created me to be. Going through the fire hurts like hell (pardon the pun) when you're smack in the middle of it. But going through the fire purifies us...like gold. There is growth, there is glory. The expression "no pain, no gain" is something I never truly understood like I do now. So I need to trust God with my relationships, and trust that if they fail, if they cause pain, if they're messy - He will faithfully pull me through to the other side, better and stronger and wiser than I was before.
Jesus, I come to the foot of your cross with my face to the ground...humbly asking you to help me in my relationships. First, help me learn to keep my relationship with God (through you and with the help of the Spirit) as my first and most important relationship. Please fill me so full with our relationship that it literally spills out onto others so that I may glorify you and that when they see me, they see you. Second, help me to have healthy relationships with the people in my life, with my circles in the order you created them to be in. My desire is to have a heart and an allegiance like Jonathan had for David. To be the best wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt, relative, friend and companion that I can be. Remove the impurities that exist in my heart towards others by bringing me through the fire into your circle and help me learn to trust you with all of my life and all of my relationships. Thank you for all you have done in me and for me and all that you will continue to do. I pray for your strength, guidance and wisdom in all that I do and all that I am. In Jesus' name. Amen.
Sunday, March 23, 2014
Saturday, February 22, 2014
I'm just a ragamuffin...
I'm reading a book called "The Ragamuffin Gospel" by Brennan Manning and as most books I read - ok ALL of the books I read, it has prompted some deep introspection and thought. I've just read a story about a group session Brennan attended for alcoholics that struck a chord. No, I'm not an alcoholic, although I have to admit I like a pina colada or a yummy flavored martini once in a while...but the story isn't so much about alcoholism, as it is about trying to hide our sins. Trying to justify, rationalize, hide, cover up and/or pretend that our sins aren't bad or that we don't have issues like those other people do (alcoholics, murderers, etc). I think one thing that struck me when reading this story, is that in general, many "believers" seem to think they have to be perfect, sinless and make sure that the other believers think that of them as well. The one place that we come together to worship the God who sent His Son to die for our sins, while we were still sinning, and fully knowing that we would continue to sin...seems to be the one place that we pretend we have it all together the most. The therapist/facilitator in this story used some serious tough love and unconventional tactics to get this guy "Max" to admit that he really does have a problem. Max was doing everything he could to make the others think he was fine and didn't actually have a problem. He was called out for his lying. He was practically humiliated into admitting how broken he really was.
One thing this story made me think of is how when I was a kid, I used to lie about stuff, A LOT. I lied about places I'd been or things I had, I made up all kinds of stories - mostly because I felt like I had nothing to contribute to conversations, class discussions, or girl talk about boys. I felt so inadequate, inexperienced, boring, whatever. I'll never ever forget the day in 4th grade that my teacher called me out of the classroom and laid into me about yet another story I made up. I felt so embarrassed, ashamed, humiliated...but it changed me, at least for a while. I didn't make up another story in that class the rest of the year. Unfortunately, I still lied a lot as I got older and it caught up with me in various ways as well. But at some point in my life, I came to a point where enough was enough. I was who I was, there was nothing I could do or say to change that and people could either accept that or not. So I decided to be honest - and sometimes I was and have been honest to a fault with people. But something happened when I decided to stop lying...I would get really upset and irritated with other people who lied. I still find myself feeling that way, like when my husband lies about something or when my kids do or anyone else. I tend to become a little (gasp) self-righteous about it, as if because I've realized how wrong it is to lie, everyone else needs to get on board with that and stop lying too.
As I've been on this journey to follow Jesus, and in my quest to become more like Him, I've been trying to stop sinning and give other believers I hang with a picture of me that is righteous and holy and full of faith. I find myself noticing sins of others and trying to make sure I'm not doing those things, and wondering why they are still sinning when they know it's wrong and not what God wants of them. When I know someone is struggling with something, especially someone I'm close with, I find myself wanting to help them and I have this tendency to want to save them. I think I have always had this desire to help people, save people, fix them...I mean I am a nurse after all, which seems a natural fit for me because I've always been that kind of person. This isn't in itself a bad thing. The bad thing is that while I'm trying to help and save and fix, I'm becoming self righteous. I never mean to, I truly do have good intentions. However, one thing I'm realizing is that good intentions can lead to wrong actions if I don't check myself in with God, if I don't humble myself before the cross and not only realize and admit that I'm a sinner too...but remember and remind myself how difficult it is for me to stop sinning. I may not sin in obvious ways that can be seen by all...but I sin...in thought, in word, in my heart, in actions and reactions.
The truth is, no matter how hard I try, no matter what I do, no matter how I justify, I'm a sinner, I'm broken, and I need a savior just like everyone else does. Not a person to help, fix or save me...but God. People, myself included, are still human and no matter the intentions, we can't save each other. If we could, then Jesus died on the cross for nothing. This is a REALLY difficult thing for me to come to terms with. If I see someone on a train that's about to de-rail, I want to jump on the train, grab them and jump with them to safety. It's not really wrong that I want to do that, but it's wrong if I go about trying to do it by myself, without God. If I trust God, if I believe He is who He says He is, if I have faith in Him, then I need to go to Him in humility and ask for Him to save, and to show me the ways that I can help, if He wants me to. IF He wants me to!! Really God doesn't need my help, He's got things covered, but sometimes He does use people in ways that will help Him to achieve his plans, there are lots of stories in the Bible where God uses people...and when and if He wants to use me, I want to be ready and willing to obey. Meanwhile, I need to learn how to sit back and trust Him to keep the train on the track. Instead of trying to fix people, I need to just love them, as they are, sins and all. That, I'm realizing (finally), IS the Gospel message. And...Lord have mercy, I need His help to stay humble enough to see and admit that my sins are no more and no less than anyone else's, and that His blood has already covered them all. I don't have to do anything, He's already done it.
Lord, my prayer to you today comes in the form of a song by a group called Sidewalk Prophets...please hear this as my plea to you and keep making me:
"Keep Making Me"
Make me broken
So I can be healed
‘Cause I’m so calloused
And now I can’t feel
I want to run to You
With heart wide open
Make me broken
Make me empty
So I can be filled
‘Cause I’m still holding
Onto my will
And I’m completed
When you are with me
Make me empty
[Chorus:]
‘Til You are my one desire
‘Til You are my one true love
‘Til You are my breath, my everything
Lord, please keep making me
Make me lonely
So I can be Yours
‘Til I want no one
More than You, Lord
‘Cause in the darkness
I know You will hold me
Make me lonely
[Chorus]
One thing this story made me think of is how when I was a kid, I used to lie about stuff, A LOT. I lied about places I'd been or things I had, I made up all kinds of stories - mostly because I felt like I had nothing to contribute to conversations, class discussions, or girl talk about boys. I felt so inadequate, inexperienced, boring, whatever. I'll never ever forget the day in 4th grade that my teacher called me out of the classroom and laid into me about yet another story I made up. I felt so embarrassed, ashamed, humiliated...but it changed me, at least for a while. I didn't make up another story in that class the rest of the year. Unfortunately, I still lied a lot as I got older and it caught up with me in various ways as well. But at some point in my life, I came to a point where enough was enough. I was who I was, there was nothing I could do or say to change that and people could either accept that or not. So I decided to be honest - and sometimes I was and have been honest to a fault with people. But something happened when I decided to stop lying...I would get really upset and irritated with other people who lied. I still find myself feeling that way, like when my husband lies about something or when my kids do or anyone else. I tend to become a little (gasp) self-righteous about it, as if because I've realized how wrong it is to lie, everyone else needs to get on board with that and stop lying too.
As I've been on this journey to follow Jesus, and in my quest to become more like Him, I've been trying to stop sinning and give other believers I hang with a picture of me that is righteous and holy and full of faith. I find myself noticing sins of others and trying to make sure I'm not doing those things, and wondering why they are still sinning when they know it's wrong and not what God wants of them. When I know someone is struggling with something, especially someone I'm close with, I find myself wanting to help them and I have this tendency to want to save them. I think I have always had this desire to help people, save people, fix them...I mean I am a nurse after all, which seems a natural fit for me because I've always been that kind of person. This isn't in itself a bad thing. The bad thing is that while I'm trying to help and save and fix, I'm becoming self righteous. I never mean to, I truly do have good intentions. However, one thing I'm realizing is that good intentions can lead to wrong actions if I don't check myself in with God, if I don't humble myself before the cross and not only realize and admit that I'm a sinner too...but remember and remind myself how difficult it is for me to stop sinning. I may not sin in obvious ways that can be seen by all...but I sin...in thought, in word, in my heart, in actions and reactions.
The truth is, no matter how hard I try, no matter what I do, no matter how I justify, I'm a sinner, I'm broken, and I need a savior just like everyone else does. Not a person to help, fix or save me...but God. People, myself included, are still human and no matter the intentions, we can't save each other. If we could, then Jesus died on the cross for nothing. This is a REALLY difficult thing for me to come to terms with. If I see someone on a train that's about to de-rail, I want to jump on the train, grab them and jump with them to safety. It's not really wrong that I want to do that, but it's wrong if I go about trying to do it by myself, without God. If I trust God, if I believe He is who He says He is, if I have faith in Him, then I need to go to Him in humility and ask for Him to save, and to show me the ways that I can help, if He wants me to. IF He wants me to!! Really God doesn't need my help, He's got things covered, but sometimes He does use people in ways that will help Him to achieve his plans, there are lots of stories in the Bible where God uses people...and when and if He wants to use me, I want to be ready and willing to obey. Meanwhile, I need to learn how to sit back and trust Him to keep the train on the track. Instead of trying to fix people, I need to just love them, as they are, sins and all. That, I'm realizing (finally), IS the Gospel message. And...Lord have mercy, I need His help to stay humble enough to see and admit that my sins are no more and no less than anyone else's, and that His blood has already covered them all. I don't have to do anything, He's already done it.
Lord, my prayer to you today comes in the form of a song by a group called Sidewalk Prophets...please hear this as my plea to you and keep making me:
"Keep Making Me"
Make me broken
So I can be healed
‘Cause I’m so calloused
And now I can’t feel
I want to run to You
With heart wide open
Make me broken
Make me empty
So I can be filled
‘Cause I’m still holding
Onto my will
And I’m completed
When you are with me
Make me empty
[Chorus:]
‘Til You are my one desire
‘Til You are my one true love
‘Til You are my breath, my everything
Lord, please keep making me
Make me lonely
So I can be Yours
‘Til I want no one
More than You, Lord
‘Cause in the darkness
I know You will hold me
Make me lonely
[Chorus]
Thursday, January 30, 2014
The cat is coming out of the bag...
My mom, who insisted when she found out about my faith that I not tell anyone else in the family, ESPECIALLY my sister...decided to tell my sister a couple weeks ago. I was giving my mom time to process and looking to the Spirit to guide me in when to tell the rest of my family, but she took matters into her own hands...which maybe God orchestrated? Who knows...all I know is that it's out there. I went ahead and sent her and my brother an email with the letter I sent my mom that explained everything. My brother and sister have reacted differently in some ways and the same in others. They both seem to think that I never should have told my mom. In the words of my sister, "you broke mom's heart in an unfixable manner." Ouch. Of course I knew that I was going to break my mom's heart...which of course breaks my own heart, which is of course why it took me so long to finally be able to "come out" to her about it. I don't care how old we get, we NEVER want to disappoint or hurt our parents. At least I don't, and I didn't. There's this commandment, maybe you've heard of it, about honoring thy father and mother. **Big Sigh**
The thing is, there's another commandment too...about loving and honoring God first, above all else. Above EVERYONE else. I've been in this constant state of turmoil for the last few years, in essence, because of these commandments. How does one love and honor God first and above all else AND honor thy father and mother...when you know that by doing one, you're going to cause immense pain and heartache in the other? There's this story of Jesus in a similar predicament...
Luke 2:41-3:1 New International Version (NIV)
The Boy Jesus at the Temple
41 Every year Jesus’ parents went to Jerusalem for the Festival of the Passover. 42 When he was twelve years old, they went up to the festival, according to the custom. 43 After the festival was over, while his parents were returning home, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem, but they were unaware of it. 44 Thinking he was in their company, they traveled on for a day. Then they began looking for him among their relatives and friends. 45 When they did not find him, they went back to Jerusalem to look for him. 46 After three days they found him in the temple courts, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions. 47 Everyone who heard him was amazed at his understanding and his answers. 48 When his parents saw him, they were astonished. His mother said to him, “Son, why have you treated us like this? Your father and I have been anxiously searching for you.”
49 “Why were you searching for me?” he asked. “Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?”[a] 50 But they did not understand what he was saying to them.
51 Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. 52 And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.
Jesus obeyed God, his parents were distraught and upset and didn't understand. My parents (at least my mom) is distraught and upset about what I'm doing...but she really doesn't understand. My sister doesn't get it, and wonders how I'd like it if she went off and joined an Amish cult (her words). My brother thinks I'm being ridiculous. The thing is, my family and most of the Jews around the world, don't understand. They don't know the rest of the story. Many of them don't even really know their own story. I've read the entire bible. I've researched and read and prayed and sought and found the truth. They have not done what I've done to try to find answers to questions that have been burning in me most of my life. Most of the Jews, not only don't understand, but have no desire to try to understand. And that's ok, it's actually part of God's plan and purpose for them not to understand...at least not yet. It's still hard though, hard to want to and try to live my faith out loud and still honor my family. I don't want to offend them, but chances are that I will, and really I already have. In their minds, I have turned my back on my heritage and my Jewishness. I think all of them right now are just trying to pretend that this isn't really true. My mom has asked a few times if I've changed my mind yet. My sister says she doesn't get it, but isn't doing anything to try to understand. No one wants to talk about it, and I am not going to force them...but at the same time I still feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I still feel like I can't really be who I am and live my faith out loud. I know that I can show them by HOW I live and I am trying to do that. But to openly talk about and praise Jesus, to wear a cross or have one in my home, all of these things would hurt and offend and break the hearts of the people I love the most. This is hard.
I am still in turmoil, even with the cat out of the bag. I had a feeling I would be, and I know there's a price to pay for following Jesus. I know that the cost to me is greater than what it would be for many others, but I also know that it's much less than what others have already paid or will pay. I'm just trying to figure it out, with God - how to live as a Jewish follower of Christ in a secular world and a world still full of antisemitism and a world where most people just really don't understand or know. Some days...many days, I find myself wondering if I could just forget the truth I know and go back to who I was before all of this. It would be easier, for sure, in many ways...but it would also be emptier. I am being changed, being sifted, being refined, being transformed. The process is painful most of the time, but I believe that on the other side of this, I will see a peace and a glory and a joy that I can't even possibly imagine right now. If I didn't believe that deep down, I would turn and walk away from this, because it's SO hard.
God, I need YOU. I need Your strength, Your truth, Your protection, Your love...to permeate every part of my being. I am so weak on my own, so tempted to forget what I know about You and go back to who I was, because becoming who you want me to be is SO hard, and so painful. It hurts me to know that my family is heartbroken by my choice to follow Jesus. It hurts to know that they don't understand and don't know You, and may never in this life. I feel I'm being attacked on every front and at every turn by the enemy. Help me to stand up in Your light to the darkness that continues to penetrate my soul. Without you, I am nothing, I am weak, I am lost. I pray that You will work in the hearts and minds of my family and in Jews around the world to help them see and understand, to draw them to You because they are curious about me and more importantly, curious about Jesus. This may not happen in my lifetime, so please help me to be content in Your truth, regardless of my circumstances. Help me to remain in You no matter the cost, and help me to overcome all doubt, all darkness, all desire to turn around and walk away. I want to follow the path You have for me, and I know it will cost me...and I know it will continue to hurt. God I know that through death, I will have life. Please remind me every second, every minute, every hour and every day who I am and whose I am. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
The thing is, there's another commandment too...about loving and honoring God first, above all else. Above EVERYONE else. I've been in this constant state of turmoil for the last few years, in essence, because of these commandments. How does one love and honor God first and above all else AND honor thy father and mother...when you know that by doing one, you're going to cause immense pain and heartache in the other? There's this story of Jesus in a similar predicament...
Luke 2:41-3:1 New International Version (NIV)
The Boy Jesus at the Temple
41 Every year Jesus’ parents went to Jerusalem for the Festival of the Passover. 42 When he was twelve years old, they went up to the festival, according to the custom. 43 After the festival was over, while his parents were returning home, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem, but they were unaware of it. 44 Thinking he was in their company, they traveled on for a day. Then they began looking for him among their relatives and friends. 45 When they did not find him, they went back to Jerusalem to look for him. 46 After three days they found him in the temple courts, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions. 47 Everyone who heard him was amazed at his understanding and his answers. 48 When his parents saw him, they were astonished. His mother said to him, “Son, why have you treated us like this? Your father and I have been anxiously searching for you.”
49 “Why were you searching for me?” he asked. “Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?”[a] 50 But they did not understand what he was saying to them.
51 Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. 52 And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.
Jesus obeyed God, his parents were distraught and upset and didn't understand. My parents (at least my mom) is distraught and upset about what I'm doing...but she really doesn't understand. My sister doesn't get it, and wonders how I'd like it if she went off and joined an Amish cult (her words). My brother thinks I'm being ridiculous. The thing is, my family and most of the Jews around the world, don't understand. They don't know the rest of the story. Many of them don't even really know their own story. I've read the entire bible. I've researched and read and prayed and sought and found the truth. They have not done what I've done to try to find answers to questions that have been burning in me most of my life. Most of the Jews, not only don't understand, but have no desire to try to understand. And that's ok, it's actually part of God's plan and purpose for them not to understand...at least not yet. It's still hard though, hard to want to and try to live my faith out loud and still honor my family. I don't want to offend them, but chances are that I will, and really I already have. In their minds, I have turned my back on my heritage and my Jewishness. I think all of them right now are just trying to pretend that this isn't really true. My mom has asked a few times if I've changed my mind yet. My sister says she doesn't get it, but isn't doing anything to try to understand. No one wants to talk about it, and I am not going to force them...but at the same time I still feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I still feel like I can't really be who I am and live my faith out loud. I know that I can show them by HOW I live and I am trying to do that. But to openly talk about and praise Jesus, to wear a cross or have one in my home, all of these things would hurt and offend and break the hearts of the people I love the most. This is hard.
I am still in turmoil, even with the cat out of the bag. I had a feeling I would be, and I know there's a price to pay for following Jesus. I know that the cost to me is greater than what it would be for many others, but I also know that it's much less than what others have already paid or will pay. I'm just trying to figure it out, with God - how to live as a Jewish follower of Christ in a secular world and a world still full of antisemitism and a world where most people just really don't understand or know. Some days...many days, I find myself wondering if I could just forget the truth I know and go back to who I was before all of this. It would be easier, for sure, in many ways...but it would also be emptier. I am being changed, being sifted, being refined, being transformed. The process is painful most of the time, but I believe that on the other side of this, I will see a peace and a glory and a joy that I can't even possibly imagine right now. If I didn't believe that deep down, I would turn and walk away from this, because it's SO hard.
God, I need YOU. I need Your strength, Your truth, Your protection, Your love...to permeate every part of my being. I am so weak on my own, so tempted to forget what I know about You and go back to who I was, because becoming who you want me to be is SO hard, and so painful. It hurts me to know that my family is heartbroken by my choice to follow Jesus. It hurts to know that they don't understand and don't know You, and may never in this life. I feel I'm being attacked on every front and at every turn by the enemy. Help me to stand up in Your light to the darkness that continues to penetrate my soul. Without you, I am nothing, I am weak, I am lost. I pray that You will work in the hearts and minds of my family and in Jews around the world to help them see and understand, to draw them to You because they are curious about me and more importantly, curious about Jesus. This may not happen in my lifetime, so please help me to be content in Your truth, regardless of my circumstances. Help me to remain in You no matter the cost, and help me to overcome all doubt, all darkness, all desire to turn around and walk away. I want to follow the path You have for me, and I know it will cost me...and I know it will continue to hurt. God I know that through death, I will have life. Please remind me every second, every minute, every hour and every day who I am and whose I am. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
Tuesday, December 10, 2013
One down...many more to go...
Last Tuesday, I sat in my closet for a little alone time with God (a great suggestion from a great friend). I really didn't have an agenda for us, but I came out of that closet feeling convicted to (finally) write (re-write) the letter to my mom explaining of my faith in Jesus as the Messiah. So, I wrote. I think the first sentence was re-done about 4 or 5 times but then once I got past that, the words just were flowing like a river. Then, on Thursday, before I went to play with my sweet little baby nephews, I grabbed the letter, the book "Betrayed" I got for her, and an envelope. I thought, maybe I should just go ahead and mail this out today, and she'll get it tomorrow night after she gets home and after I'm off work and we'll have the whole weekend to process through it all. I had heart palpitations all day thinking about doing this. On my way home from playing with the boys, I texted my friend and spiritual mentor...who called me and bless her heart stayed on the phone with me, encouraging me and praying for me while I addressed the envelope, bought the stamp...and, yes, put it in the mailbox. As I walked away from the post office, tears in my eyes, heart beating out of my chest...I felt both a sense of relief and anxiety. I told God that it was in His hands now...and I committed this to Him...it was done.
Friday evening came, and I was anxiously and fearfully anticipating "the call" from my mom...when I saw her picture and name come up on my caller id, my heart literally dropped into my stomach. She was totally normal - asking about going to the gym with us on Saturday - I knew she hadn't gotten my package yet - no way would she be that normal after opening THAT! So, the next day, my youngest son and I went to pick her up, took her with us to the gym, then the grocery store, then back to her place. As we were rolling in the cart of her groceries, she went to the mailbox...the first thing she pulled out was my package, then several other items...not paying attention to what she had. I grabbed the mail and put it one of her bags and then we proceeded up the elevator and down the hall to her apartment - with my heart seriously beating out of my chest. OMG - what am I supposed to do??? I was debating with myself whether I should stay or leave...and then she went to return the cart to it's proper place in the building. There I was, staring at that envelope. I had a choice. I could take it and run and forget about doing this today - I literally could take back what I just two days earlier committed to God. Or I could leave it, or I could personally hand it to her when she got back.
I took the envelope out of the bag...I had it in my hands. I grabbed a pen, I wrote a note on the outside of the envelope - something about sorry I couldn't do this in person, it was too hard...and then, when she got back, my son and I left. Heart going completely insane...I'm pretty sure that anyone could put their hand anywhere NEAR my chest and PALPATE my heartbeat at this point. I told my son I was scared and I started to cry and we talked a little bit, he asked me why I was scared and I told him that I knew Grandma would be very disappointed in me and I was scared about how she'd react (I had told my boys on Thursday that I mailed it). I don't remember everything about that conversation, but I do remember him saying "but mom, we're supposed to spread the love of Jesus!" Oh my little boy...wise beyond his years for sure. So we got home and I again anxiously and fearfully waited for her call.
She called. At first she had only seen the book, and was wondering what in the heck was going on with me...but I told her there was a letter in there and so she said she'd go read it. Then another call, lots of things to say...from thinking I had been brainwashed to "please DO NOT tell anyone else, especially your sister." She was definitely not happy. We talked for a bit, well mostly she talked for a bit, requesting things like may she never see a cross on my boys or myself, may she never walk into my home and see a cross or a picture of Jesus...telling me how and why she didn't believe in Jesus...honestly I can't remember everything she said, but I dropped to the floor of my bathroom after we hung up (another call was coming in, and she can't not answer a phone call...) and I just leaned against the bathtub, sobbing. Partially out of relief - because she did say she still loves me - and partially because I was so shocked that she begged me to keep it a secret. I mean, if I'm going to "come out" about this, I'm going to "come out" to everyone - I just thought she should be the first one. How, I thought, do I both obey and honor God and honor my mother as the 5th commandment asks me to do??????????????
So, she called another time, leaving a message that she had told my aunt (her sister) but that she would NOT be telling anyone else, and again urged me not to either and also said some things that my aunt said about everything. My non-practicing, non-observant aunt was clearly not happy either. I didn't call her back because my best friend had come over with her son and we were having dinner (and some wine, Lord knows I needed it at that moment)...and then later we were watching the weekly video for our bible study and my mom called, AGAIN. Initially, she BEGGED me not to put anything about this on Facebook. She had lots of things to say, she told me she had cried alot, and also that she couldn't seem to locate the book I gave her - (small one bedroom apartment, who knows what happened but I'm sure the devil has a hand in that somehow) and talked about a cousin of hers who had believed and was dis-owned by many in the family, talked about her belief about the Messiah, again thought maybe I'd been brainwashed, strongly encouraging me to NOT go to church (little does she know) - she thought it would be best for me to just go outside to pray rather than go to a church. The thing is, is that to my mom, the Cross and Church are about the same as having a picture of the head of the KKK in the home of a black person - this is the only way I can explain how she feels about it. She pretty much said she didn't want to know if I was going to church, didn't want to know if I was going to get "dunked" and stated that she wants to live to be 85 so she can see all of my sister's boys have their Bar Mitzvah's, and also requested that when she die, I go to synagogue to recite the mourner's prayer for a month and then once a year on the anniversary of her death. WHEW.
Lots of heavy stuff. Ultimately, what I heard in that conversation was a TON of fear and a TON of ignorance. It's heartbreaking, but I understand and I will try to honor and respect her as best as I can, while following God and obeying Him first. I interjected a few times to say things but I think mostly likely everything that I said fell on deaf ears. But, we did dialogue - we did dialogue. I sensed a curiosity in her and in as much as she was absolutely against what I was saying I believe, she was talking about stuff and asking questions and seemed like discussions might be ok to have about all this...and she did say that she'd read the book, if she can find it.
She didn't keel over, either did I. I realized that by far, this was the BIGGEST act of obedience to God that I have personally EVER experienced. I also realized that I must REALLY REALLY REALLY believe that Jesus is the Messiah to have told my mom I believe He is. I kept saying that I would know when it was time, and I did - I knew when I knew and that was that. God is so good and so incredibly patient and even though I said I would know when I knew, I didn't really fully believe that - until I KNEW and I did it. This gives me hope and it makes me TRUST God even more than ever. He WILL lead me if I will seek Him. He will place those nudging's in my gut and in my heart and I know that when I follow Him, He will be with me, and I will see fruit...maybe not today, maybe not in 5 years, maybe not ever while I'm living on this earth, but eventually, eternally, I will see fruit from my obedience.
In the meantime, I'm giving my mom some time to recover from the initial shock, and I will tell the rest of my family, starting with my sister, when and how God leads me to. I will know when I know.
God, I thank you for Your amazing love, mercy, grace, patience and nudging's. I know that You created me and that You have a plan for me and that if I am still and seek you and am obedient to Your will, that I will know and see and follow Your leading. I pray for the wisdom and discernment and the courage and strength to continue to listen to You above anyone on this earth. I pray that I will continue to obey You first, even if that means strained relationships, severed relationships and/or a lot of pain and suffering will come my way. I pray that I will always remember how faithful You are and always have been, and I pray in Jesus' name that I can continue to be brave and bold in sharing my faith with my family, with my friends, with total strangers. Amen.
Friday evening came, and I was anxiously and fearfully anticipating "the call" from my mom...when I saw her picture and name come up on my caller id, my heart literally dropped into my stomach. She was totally normal - asking about going to the gym with us on Saturday - I knew she hadn't gotten my package yet - no way would she be that normal after opening THAT! So, the next day, my youngest son and I went to pick her up, took her with us to the gym, then the grocery store, then back to her place. As we were rolling in the cart of her groceries, she went to the mailbox...the first thing she pulled out was my package, then several other items...not paying attention to what she had. I grabbed the mail and put it one of her bags and then we proceeded up the elevator and down the hall to her apartment - with my heart seriously beating out of my chest. OMG - what am I supposed to do??? I was debating with myself whether I should stay or leave...and then she went to return the cart to it's proper place in the building. There I was, staring at that envelope. I had a choice. I could take it and run and forget about doing this today - I literally could take back what I just two days earlier committed to God. Or I could leave it, or I could personally hand it to her when she got back.
I took the envelope out of the bag...I had it in my hands. I grabbed a pen, I wrote a note on the outside of the envelope - something about sorry I couldn't do this in person, it was too hard...and then, when she got back, my son and I left. Heart going completely insane...I'm pretty sure that anyone could put their hand anywhere NEAR my chest and PALPATE my heartbeat at this point. I told my son I was scared and I started to cry and we talked a little bit, he asked me why I was scared and I told him that I knew Grandma would be very disappointed in me and I was scared about how she'd react (I had told my boys on Thursday that I mailed it). I don't remember everything about that conversation, but I do remember him saying "but mom, we're supposed to spread the love of Jesus!" Oh my little boy...wise beyond his years for sure. So we got home and I again anxiously and fearfully waited for her call.
She called. At first she had only seen the book, and was wondering what in the heck was going on with me...but I told her there was a letter in there and so she said she'd go read it. Then another call, lots of things to say...from thinking I had been brainwashed to "please DO NOT tell anyone else, especially your sister." She was definitely not happy. We talked for a bit, well mostly she talked for a bit, requesting things like may she never see a cross on my boys or myself, may she never walk into my home and see a cross or a picture of Jesus...telling me how and why she didn't believe in Jesus...honestly I can't remember everything she said, but I dropped to the floor of my bathroom after we hung up (another call was coming in, and she can't not answer a phone call...) and I just leaned against the bathtub, sobbing. Partially out of relief - because she did say she still loves me - and partially because I was so shocked that she begged me to keep it a secret. I mean, if I'm going to "come out" about this, I'm going to "come out" to everyone - I just thought she should be the first one. How, I thought, do I both obey and honor God and honor my mother as the 5th commandment asks me to do??????????????
So, she called another time, leaving a message that she had told my aunt (her sister) but that she would NOT be telling anyone else, and again urged me not to either and also said some things that my aunt said about everything. My non-practicing, non-observant aunt was clearly not happy either. I didn't call her back because my best friend had come over with her son and we were having dinner (and some wine, Lord knows I needed it at that moment)...and then later we were watching the weekly video for our bible study and my mom called, AGAIN. Initially, she BEGGED me not to put anything about this on Facebook. She had lots of things to say, she told me she had cried alot, and also that she couldn't seem to locate the book I gave her - (small one bedroom apartment, who knows what happened but I'm sure the devil has a hand in that somehow) and talked about a cousin of hers who had believed and was dis-owned by many in the family, talked about her belief about the Messiah, again thought maybe I'd been brainwashed, strongly encouraging me to NOT go to church (little does she know) - she thought it would be best for me to just go outside to pray rather than go to a church. The thing is, is that to my mom, the Cross and Church are about the same as having a picture of the head of the KKK in the home of a black person - this is the only way I can explain how she feels about it. She pretty much said she didn't want to know if I was going to church, didn't want to know if I was going to get "dunked" and stated that she wants to live to be 85 so she can see all of my sister's boys have their Bar Mitzvah's, and also requested that when she die, I go to synagogue to recite the mourner's prayer for a month and then once a year on the anniversary of her death. WHEW.
Lots of heavy stuff. Ultimately, what I heard in that conversation was a TON of fear and a TON of ignorance. It's heartbreaking, but I understand and I will try to honor and respect her as best as I can, while following God and obeying Him first. I interjected a few times to say things but I think mostly likely everything that I said fell on deaf ears. But, we did dialogue - we did dialogue. I sensed a curiosity in her and in as much as she was absolutely against what I was saying I believe, she was talking about stuff and asking questions and seemed like discussions might be ok to have about all this...and she did say that she'd read the book, if she can find it.
She didn't keel over, either did I. I realized that by far, this was the BIGGEST act of obedience to God that I have personally EVER experienced. I also realized that I must REALLY REALLY REALLY believe that Jesus is the Messiah to have told my mom I believe He is. I kept saying that I would know when it was time, and I did - I knew when I knew and that was that. God is so good and so incredibly patient and even though I said I would know when I knew, I didn't really fully believe that - until I KNEW and I did it. This gives me hope and it makes me TRUST God even more than ever. He WILL lead me if I will seek Him. He will place those nudging's in my gut and in my heart and I know that when I follow Him, He will be with me, and I will see fruit...maybe not today, maybe not in 5 years, maybe not ever while I'm living on this earth, but eventually, eternally, I will see fruit from my obedience.
In the meantime, I'm giving my mom some time to recover from the initial shock, and I will tell the rest of my family, starting with my sister, when and how God leads me to. I will know when I know.
God, I thank you for Your amazing love, mercy, grace, patience and nudging's. I know that You created me and that You have a plan for me and that if I am still and seek you and am obedient to Your will, that I will know and see and follow Your leading. I pray for the wisdom and discernment and the courage and strength to continue to listen to You above anyone on this earth. I pray that I will continue to obey You first, even if that means strained relationships, severed relationships and/or a lot of pain and suffering will come my way. I pray that I will always remember how faithful You are and always have been, and I pray in Jesus' name that I can continue to be brave and bold in sharing my faith with my family, with my friends, with total strangers. Amen.
Friday, November 22, 2013
Watering the plants...
I'm not really a plant person, and do not have a green thumb. But I have been thinking about plants lately, and how they are like people. When you have plants, you have to water them so they can live and grow. If you don't water them, water them too much, or don't water them enough, they will wither away and die. You have to make sure that you keep up with them, pay attention to them, some people talk to their plants, some use special plant food or a different kind of dirt that provides nutrients to help them thrive, some require sunlight while others grow best in the dark. Any way you look at it, it takes time and effort and intentionality to keep them from dying. Sometimes we have a special plant that ends up requiring more effort to keep alive, so we pay extra attention to it, or it has particular needs that the others don't have and we really don't want this one to die so we work really hard everyday to make sure it's thriving. Before we know it, we may notice that some of our other plants are dying. We didn't mean to forget about them, but this one plant required so much of us that we lost track of the others. It's hard to keep up with all of those plants sometimes.
Our relationships with people are very similar to plants. It takes effort and time and intentionality to keep them alive and for them to grow. Sometimes we get so caught up with one or two of our relationships that we inadvertently lose track of the others. Our lives get so busy. We have jobs and kids and parents and activities, we get distracted by life and stuff that we forget to "water" some of our plants. Life can get pretty overwhelming and the demands on our time grow and we can't even sometimes get a moment to ourselves to breathe, let alone keep up with all the people in our lives. How do some people do it, they manage to maintain several close relationships, while taking care of their families and work responsibilities, some put in several hours of volunteer hours to serve others, many have hobbies or other demands and they're being pulled in so many different directions, but somehow they manage to continue to water all of their plants. Where do they get all this water? How do they do it, keep up with so many relationships at once??
Well I have a couple thoughts about this. First of all, the single most important relationship that requires much and in turn gives us much, is our relationship with God. He's the living water that we need every day. As I mentioned in my last post, God is the one that fills our jars. When we turn to Him everyday and work on our relationship with Him, when we seek Him and His will for us, He will direct us and provide what we need to thrive. When we are thriving in this relationship, He will guide us in our other relationships. God gives us wisdom, discernment and encouragement. He expects us to use what He gives us and then give to others. How do we know this? We look at Jesus. He was in constant communion with God, taking breaks from the disciples and the crowds of people everyday to be alone and pray and nourish His relationship with God. Then, He was able to be a great friend, healer and example to all of us and He showed us the way to treat others. He got what He needed from His father, and He turned around and gave to His people. He was a man in demand! People from all over wanted a piece of this guy Jesus. They just wanted to see Him, hear Him speak, touch Him, brush by Him...anything, just to get close to Him. He was THE celebrity of all celebrities...and I'm sure He was overwhelmed trying to keep up with everyone. But He showed us how. Just read this little excerpt from John 13:
John 13:12-17 - 12 When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. "Do you understand what I have done for you?" he asked them. 13 “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. 14 Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. 15 I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. 16 Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. 17 Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.
John 15 goes on to say 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.
I know how hard it is to keep up with relationships with all the demands of life. I believe that if we keep our relationship with God at the center of our lives and we ask Him to, He will show us where and how to give of ourselves to others. To our spouses or significant others, to our kids and other family, to our friends and to others we don't even know yet. Our God is all about relationship. He wants us to have an incredible relationship with Him so that we can have incredible relationships with others. He will give us all we need so we can give to others. Ask Him for His living water, and you'll have plenty in your watering can to keep all those plants flourishing.
Lord I thank you for giving me so many amazing people in my life. I recognize that these people are gifts from you. The demands on my time grow continually and it can become difficult to keep watering all of these plants. It's easy to get overwhelmed and lose track of some of my relationships. It's easy to focus on one or two and then slowly lose track of others. I know that the only way I can nourish all of my relationships is to seek You first. You can give me the wisdom and discernment to know where my watering can needs to go next, and how much water to pour into each of my "plants" to keep them alive and thriving. On my own, I can't always figure out the balance, but with You and Your guidance, I can maintain and grow in the relationships You desire for me to keep. You alone are my living water, and I know I can keep returning to you for more when I feel that my can is empty. Thank for You loving me well so that I can love others well. I don't do it perfectly like You do, but I try and I need You to help me where I fail. Amen.
Our relationships with people are very similar to plants. It takes effort and time and intentionality to keep them alive and for them to grow. Sometimes we get so caught up with one or two of our relationships that we inadvertently lose track of the others. Our lives get so busy. We have jobs and kids and parents and activities, we get distracted by life and stuff that we forget to "water" some of our plants. Life can get pretty overwhelming and the demands on our time grow and we can't even sometimes get a moment to ourselves to breathe, let alone keep up with all the people in our lives. How do some people do it, they manage to maintain several close relationships, while taking care of their families and work responsibilities, some put in several hours of volunteer hours to serve others, many have hobbies or other demands and they're being pulled in so many different directions, but somehow they manage to continue to water all of their plants. Where do they get all this water? How do they do it, keep up with so many relationships at once??
Well I have a couple thoughts about this. First of all, the single most important relationship that requires much and in turn gives us much, is our relationship with God. He's the living water that we need every day. As I mentioned in my last post, God is the one that fills our jars. When we turn to Him everyday and work on our relationship with Him, when we seek Him and His will for us, He will direct us and provide what we need to thrive. When we are thriving in this relationship, He will guide us in our other relationships. God gives us wisdom, discernment and encouragement. He expects us to use what He gives us and then give to others. How do we know this? We look at Jesus. He was in constant communion with God, taking breaks from the disciples and the crowds of people everyday to be alone and pray and nourish His relationship with God. Then, He was able to be a great friend, healer and example to all of us and He showed us the way to treat others. He got what He needed from His father, and He turned around and gave to His people. He was a man in demand! People from all over wanted a piece of this guy Jesus. They just wanted to see Him, hear Him speak, touch Him, brush by Him...anything, just to get close to Him. He was THE celebrity of all celebrities...and I'm sure He was overwhelmed trying to keep up with everyone. But He showed us how. Just read this little excerpt from John 13:
John 13:12-17 - 12 When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. "Do you understand what I have done for you?" he asked them. 13 “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. 14 Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. 15 I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. 16 Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. 17 Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.
John 15 goes on to say 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.
I know how hard it is to keep up with relationships with all the demands of life. I believe that if we keep our relationship with God at the center of our lives and we ask Him to, He will show us where and how to give of ourselves to others. To our spouses or significant others, to our kids and other family, to our friends and to others we don't even know yet. Our God is all about relationship. He wants us to have an incredible relationship with Him so that we can have incredible relationships with others. He will give us all we need so we can give to others. Ask Him for His living water, and you'll have plenty in your watering can to keep all those plants flourishing.
Lord I thank you for giving me so many amazing people in my life. I recognize that these people are gifts from you. The demands on my time grow continually and it can become difficult to keep watering all of these plants. It's easy to get overwhelmed and lose track of some of my relationships. It's easy to focus on one or two and then slowly lose track of others. I know that the only way I can nourish all of my relationships is to seek You first. You can give me the wisdom and discernment to know where my watering can needs to go next, and how much water to pour into each of my "plants" to keep them alive and thriving. On my own, I can't always figure out the balance, but with You and Your guidance, I can maintain and grow in the relationships You desire for me to keep. You alone are my living water, and I know I can keep returning to you for more when I feel that my can is empty. Thank for You loving me well so that I can love others well. I don't do it perfectly like You do, but I try and I need You to help me where I fail. Amen.
Sunday, November 3, 2013
The jar of life...
So I've been neglecting my blog a bit lately. Not because I haven't had thoughts...I have a million of those daily and they keep me up half the night many times too. But, I seemed to have been inspired today by something my BFF said, and by some stuff in my Beth Moore bible study (Breaking Free, HIGHLY recommend this one), and by today's sermon at church. I know that I tend to ramble and sometimes I'm not sure that I can follow what I'm saying, let alone anyone reading this. So I'll try to make sense of my thoughts but I can't make any promises.
So, here's a little glimpse into my texting conversation today with the bestie: Her: "I was thinking this morning about people who don't follow and how some people seem fine without God." Me: "Seem fine...that's the key. You may seem and even think your'e fine...and then you find Jesus and realize you were so not fine."
I know a lot of people, and in fact, I WAS one of those people...who thought, "hey, I'm a good person, I try to do what's right, I'm nice to people, I give to charity...I don't really need religion, I don't really need to go to synagogue." Basically, I was saying and many people say, I'm good without God. Here's the thing...God created us to have empty spaces in our jar. Many of us think our jar is pretty full, or that if we just had [money, a spouse, a bigger house, a better car, a good job...insert just about anything here] that we'd be full! There's always just "one more thing" we "need" or "want" to have that fullness we innately desire. But God didn't have all that stuff in mind when He created us. He actually purposefully left empty spaces in our jar of life. Why? Because He knows and He wants us to know, that HE is the only thing that can truly fill us up. Beth Moore, in her video session this week, stuffed a glass vase full of things that we fill our lives with (men, money, cell phone, sports, activity stuff, a baby, etc etc). That vase looked pretty full. It seemed to be stuffed. Didn't look like you could fit anything else in there. Then she poured water in the vase and you could clearly see all those empty spaces, and now they were full. A little scripture...John 4, I won't give you the whole story, because I think you should go read it, but here's a verse, John 4:10 "Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” Friends, our jars cannot be full without God. We may truly believe they're full, we may truly believe we have all we need, that we're happy and that we're "fine" without God.
It's entirely possible to go through your entire life, be on your death bed, believe that you have been "fine" and die without knowing or having known Jesus. Frankly, this just makes me sad. Because now that I know...now that I see...I know how so not fine I was before! I know how empty I truly was. I know how empty people that don't believe really are, and they may not even realize it. Now that I know...I can't even imagine my life without God. The empty spaces. The desperate wanting and seeking for something to fill them up. My heart, my life...has been changed. Truly transformed by knowing Jesus. He has given me living water and I can't get enough. I'm not saying I don't have times of feeling empty. I feel loss, I feel guilt, I feel lonely, I feel sad and I have longings in my heart. The cost of following Jesus is not easy and it will not be easy...and it will be really hard when I do finally tell my family, it's really hard now. But I know that God...is the only One that can fill all of those empty spaces, that can heal all of my brokenness. He came to bind up the brokenhearted. I can tell you that I was NOT fine before I knew Him.
Following Jesus comes at a cost and there are sacrifices to be made. It's hard to let go and let God do His work in us. I'm still learning, still failing, but still desperately want to follow Him and live in His will. I know that His will won't always match up with mine. I know that I have to TRUST Him. Completely. With everything. With everyone. Hold nothing back. If I will let Him...He will fill my jar, over and over and over. Every day. Every hour. Every minute. If I let Him. It's hard to let go and not be in control. But I know that His ways and His timing are perfect. So, one thing, one person, one empty space at a time, I'm learning and trying to trust, to let go and to let Him fill my jar of life. Only He can. Only He is meant to.
God I thank you for opening my eyes to your truth. I know that not everyone knows You. I know that there are many people walking around this earth either thinking they're fine without You, or they're seeking for something or someone or many things or many someone's that can fill up the empty spaces. I know now that You are the One, the ONLY One, that can fill up our jars. I know and I am blessed to know, that you are the living water and that I can have as much as I want, and never be thirsty again. Jesus, You are THE Way, THE Truth, and THE Life. I cannot imagine my life without You and I know I wasn't truly living until I knew You. I know that following You is hard...and there are times I want to push the "unfollow" button for just a time...so that I can be in control of something, someone, myself. But I truly know and believe that, having done this so many times already, that I have no business trying to fill my own jar. I may think I know what I need to fill up my jar and Lord you know how often I've tried and been wrong. You've allowed me to "unfollow" you...because You gave me free will. Jesus, I want to follow You and never push that button again. We both know on my own I'll fail. But we also both know that through You, all things are possible. Please fill my jar of life today, and every day. Remind me through Your Word, through prayer, through my Godly relationships and through my relationship with You that You gave me life and everything that I have and that I am is from You...help me to live in Your will, and to let you fill my jar! I pray in the name of Jesus! Amen.
So, here's a little glimpse into my texting conversation today with the bestie: Her: "I was thinking this morning about people who don't follow and how some people seem fine without God." Me: "Seem fine...that's the key. You may seem and even think your'e fine...and then you find Jesus and realize you were so not fine."
I know a lot of people, and in fact, I WAS one of those people...who thought, "hey, I'm a good person, I try to do what's right, I'm nice to people, I give to charity...I don't really need religion, I don't really need to go to synagogue." Basically, I was saying and many people say, I'm good without God. Here's the thing...God created us to have empty spaces in our jar. Many of us think our jar is pretty full, or that if we just had [money, a spouse, a bigger house, a better car, a good job...insert just about anything here] that we'd be full! There's always just "one more thing" we "need" or "want" to have that fullness we innately desire. But God didn't have all that stuff in mind when He created us. He actually purposefully left empty spaces in our jar of life. Why? Because He knows and He wants us to know, that HE is the only thing that can truly fill us up. Beth Moore, in her video session this week, stuffed a glass vase full of things that we fill our lives with (men, money, cell phone, sports, activity stuff, a baby, etc etc). That vase looked pretty full. It seemed to be stuffed. Didn't look like you could fit anything else in there. Then she poured water in the vase and you could clearly see all those empty spaces, and now they were full. A little scripture...John 4, I won't give you the whole story, because I think you should go read it, but here's a verse, John 4:10 "Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” Friends, our jars cannot be full without God. We may truly believe they're full, we may truly believe we have all we need, that we're happy and that we're "fine" without God.
It's entirely possible to go through your entire life, be on your death bed, believe that you have been "fine" and die without knowing or having known Jesus. Frankly, this just makes me sad. Because now that I know...now that I see...I know how so not fine I was before! I know how empty I truly was. I know how empty people that don't believe really are, and they may not even realize it. Now that I know...I can't even imagine my life without God. The empty spaces. The desperate wanting and seeking for something to fill them up. My heart, my life...has been changed. Truly transformed by knowing Jesus. He has given me living water and I can't get enough. I'm not saying I don't have times of feeling empty. I feel loss, I feel guilt, I feel lonely, I feel sad and I have longings in my heart. The cost of following Jesus is not easy and it will not be easy...and it will be really hard when I do finally tell my family, it's really hard now. But I know that God...is the only One that can fill all of those empty spaces, that can heal all of my brokenness. He came to bind up the brokenhearted. I can tell you that I was NOT fine before I knew Him.
Following Jesus comes at a cost and there are sacrifices to be made. It's hard to let go and let God do His work in us. I'm still learning, still failing, but still desperately want to follow Him and live in His will. I know that His will won't always match up with mine. I know that I have to TRUST Him. Completely. With everything. With everyone. Hold nothing back. If I will let Him...He will fill my jar, over and over and over. Every day. Every hour. Every minute. If I let Him. It's hard to let go and not be in control. But I know that His ways and His timing are perfect. So, one thing, one person, one empty space at a time, I'm learning and trying to trust, to let go and to let Him fill my jar of life. Only He can. Only He is meant to.
God I thank you for opening my eyes to your truth. I know that not everyone knows You. I know that there are many people walking around this earth either thinking they're fine without You, or they're seeking for something or someone or many things or many someone's that can fill up the empty spaces. I know now that You are the One, the ONLY One, that can fill up our jars. I know and I am blessed to know, that you are the living water and that I can have as much as I want, and never be thirsty again. Jesus, You are THE Way, THE Truth, and THE Life. I cannot imagine my life without You and I know I wasn't truly living until I knew You. I know that following You is hard...and there are times I want to push the "unfollow" button for just a time...so that I can be in control of something, someone, myself. But I truly know and believe that, having done this so many times already, that I have no business trying to fill my own jar. I may think I know what I need to fill up my jar and Lord you know how often I've tried and been wrong. You've allowed me to "unfollow" you...because You gave me free will. Jesus, I want to follow You and never push that button again. We both know on my own I'll fail. But we also both know that through You, all things are possible. Please fill my jar of life today, and every day. Remind me through Your Word, through prayer, through my Godly relationships and through my relationship with You that You gave me life and everything that I have and that I am is from You...help me to live in Your will, and to let you fill my jar! I pray in the name of Jesus! Amen.
Sunday, September 1, 2013
Security
One thing that I love...and sometimes hate...about my faith journey, is that I've had to take some long hard looks into my own soul. If I'm going to grow into a woman in whom Christ dwells, and if I'm going to surrender to Him so He can shape and refine me into the woman He created me to be, then I need to know, REALLY know, who I am and who I've been. Sometimes I see good things, and sometimes, I see some not so good things about myself. The really cool thing is that God loves me no matter what and He's already forgiven every sin in thought or action that I have ever committed and will ever commit. But as I mentioned in my last post, the way to salvation involves surrender and sacrifice. It has to. If I don't let Jesus transform me by surrendering and sacrificing all my stuff to Him, then I'm not fully living in His will and I'm not fully accepting His salvation. So I've been pondering alot lately about who I am and why I can't fully surrender. I know things in my head, and some of it has seeped into my heart, and I know that I'm changing...but I've got issues, big issues, that are standing in the way of my surrender. I think this week, I've stumbled upon the BIG issue, the one that has always always affected my thoughts, my actions, my reactions, my relationships, and ultimately my surrender to the One true God.
Here it is...insecurity. I've always been insecure. I've always had low self-esteem. I've always struggled with the insecurity and it has always followed me everywhere I've gone in my life. It followed me into the classroom when I was a kid and was afraid to raise my hand or speak up, even if I knew the answer. It followed me to the softball fields and basketball courts when I never felt "good enough" to play. It followed me into my food choices, exercise habits (or lack thereof) and it followed me into obesity and back down again, into all of my friendships, my relationships with men, into my family relationships...everywhere. I have never been able to shake this insecurity no matter how hard I've tried and no matter how much I've accomplished. I've had moments where I've had spurts of security - and when I look back, those have ALL come from external sources: pats on the back from other people recognizing a job well done, encouragement from a youth group leader to see myself as a beautiful and wonderful person, getting good grades, graduating from college and then nursing school, recognition from others on my weight loss, friends who have had great things to say about me...not that any of these things are bad. It's good to be recognized by others and to be esteemed by them. But, here's the problem...none of this has led to true security, lasting security in being comfortable in my own skin and in being content. My insecurities have led to broken or damaged relationships, body image issues whether obese or not, and they are a huge reason for why I haven't told my family of my faith...and especially I think the biggest reason for my lack of surrender and full acceptance of the gift of salvation that Jesus has given.
Just like Adam and Eve didn't realize they were naked until they had sinned, insecurity is a failure to realize who we are because satan has gotten to us. He's fed us lie after lie and is doing everything in his power to separate us from God and from salvation. He wants to keep us in our sinful nature, wants to break our spirit and keep The Spirit out of us. He's pretty sneaky in how he does this and our society and our sinful world is doing nothing to help us get out of this darkness and into God's light. If we are to be free, to surrender, to live in God's will, to live in the light...we have to go into these dark places of our souls and we have to rebuke satan and rely on Scripture. We have to be in God's word, know His word, use His word when negative, dark thoughts come into our heads, and we need to not let ANYTHING or anyone separate us from God's love. Saying and doing are definitely two different things. But I am trying, with God's help, to replace all of the negative, insecure thoughts and feelings I have with His truths. My security can ONLY come from God and from seeing my reflection through His eyes, and not my own, and not the world's. This is hard and it's a process. I will be fighting this battle the rest of my life, I'm sure...but I have someone who will ALWAYS be with me, will go before me, walk beside me and follow behind. Someone who will never leave me or forsake me, who will never break His promises to me, who will always love me unconditionally and deeply, never disappoint me or hurt me. I have to learn to trust in that, fully trust in that and to stand firm on that no matter what my circumstances are. I cannot be complete without the ONLY one that can complete me, can truly satisfy me and IS the only security I need.
God, I recognize that I've allowed satan to bring me into the darkness of my own insecurities and to keep me there and I can see how much damage my insecurities have caused myself, my family, my friends and my spouse. I cannot fight these thoughts and feelings I have on my own. I need Your strength, I need Your Word to speak truth into my soul everyday, every hour, every minute. I need You to help me turn my negative thoughts and my negative perceptions of me and of others in my life into positive ones...by the promises You have given. I want to surrender all of my stuff to You Jesus but I know I can't or won't do that while I'm still living in the slavery of my insecurities. Please help me stand up to satan and fight this spiritual battle that invades my life so deeply. I pray that each day, as I seek You and talk to You, that You will show me the way to security, to freedom, to my abiding in You and You in me. Thank for your patience and for showing me the log I clearly have in my own eye, when I've been so quick to point out the speck in others eyes. I recognize this as my own insecurity and I want to live in Your security. I love you and I thank you for Your redeeming work in my life and in the world. In Jesus name, Amen.
Here it is...insecurity. I've always been insecure. I've always had low self-esteem. I've always struggled with the insecurity and it has always followed me everywhere I've gone in my life. It followed me into the classroom when I was a kid and was afraid to raise my hand or speak up, even if I knew the answer. It followed me to the softball fields and basketball courts when I never felt "good enough" to play. It followed me into my food choices, exercise habits (or lack thereof) and it followed me into obesity and back down again, into all of my friendships, my relationships with men, into my family relationships...everywhere. I have never been able to shake this insecurity no matter how hard I've tried and no matter how much I've accomplished. I've had moments where I've had spurts of security - and when I look back, those have ALL come from external sources: pats on the back from other people recognizing a job well done, encouragement from a youth group leader to see myself as a beautiful and wonderful person, getting good grades, graduating from college and then nursing school, recognition from others on my weight loss, friends who have had great things to say about me...not that any of these things are bad. It's good to be recognized by others and to be esteemed by them. But, here's the problem...none of this has led to true security, lasting security in being comfortable in my own skin and in being content. My insecurities have led to broken or damaged relationships, body image issues whether obese or not, and they are a huge reason for why I haven't told my family of my faith...and especially I think the biggest reason for my lack of surrender and full acceptance of the gift of salvation that Jesus has given.
Just like Adam and Eve didn't realize they were naked until they had sinned, insecurity is a failure to realize who we are because satan has gotten to us. He's fed us lie after lie and is doing everything in his power to separate us from God and from salvation. He wants to keep us in our sinful nature, wants to break our spirit and keep The Spirit out of us. He's pretty sneaky in how he does this and our society and our sinful world is doing nothing to help us get out of this darkness and into God's light. If we are to be free, to surrender, to live in God's will, to live in the light...we have to go into these dark places of our souls and we have to rebuke satan and rely on Scripture. We have to be in God's word, know His word, use His word when negative, dark thoughts come into our heads, and we need to not let ANYTHING or anyone separate us from God's love. Saying and doing are definitely two different things. But I am trying, with God's help, to replace all of the negative, insecure thoughts and feelings I have with His truths. My security can ONLY come from God and from seeing my reflection through His eyes, and not my own, and not the world's. This is hard and it's a process. I will be fighting this battle the rest of my life, I'm sure...but I have someone who will ALWAYS be with me, will go before me, walk beside me and follow behind. Someone who will never leave me or forsake me, who will never break His promises to me, who will always love me unconditionally and deeply, never disappoint me or hurt me. I have to learn to trust in that, fully trust in that and to stand firm on that no matter what my circumstances are. I cannot be complete without the ONLY one that can complete me, can truly satisfy me and IS the only security I need.
God, I recognize that I've allowed satan to bring me into the darkness of my own insecurities and to keep me there and I can see how much damage my insecurities have caused myself, my family, my friends and my spouse. I cannot fight these thoughts and feelings I have on my own. I need Your strength, I need Your Word to speak truth into my soul everyday, every hour, every minute. I need You to help me turn my negative thoughts and my negative perceptions of me and of others in my life into positive ones...by the promises You have given. I want to surrender all of my stuff to You Jesus but I know I can't or won't do that while I'm still living in the slavery of my insecurities. Please help me stand up to satan and fight this spiritual battle that invades my life so deeply. I pray that each day, as I seek You and talk to You, that You will show me the way to security, to freedom, to my abiding in You and You in me. Thank for your patience and for showing me the log I clearly have in my own eye, when I've been so quick to point out the speck in others eyes. I recognize this as my own insecurity and I want to live in Your security. I love you and I thank you for Your redeeming work in my life and in the world. In Jesus name, Amen.
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